I have realized something – and I have been wondering about this for a while. Why does it seem like every one of my friends at some point or another, comes to me for advice on every type of relationship woe?
Do I look like Dr. Ruth to them, or Dr. Phil? Not exactly two people who I would like to be compared to – physically or otherwise.
I seem to be their guru of relationship advice and remedies. My friends always find me and lament their troubles and their insecurities and their secrets to me. This is without fail. I love my friends, really I do, but they never seem to understand that I am only human – a single woman no less – and I really have no desire to nitpick over the most minute of details of a person’s love life.
At one point, out of desperation and annoyance, I gave horribly bad advice – AND it worked for her. My advice seems to have a life of its own – I try to foul it up, but it never seems to go the way I plan.
I do find all of this advice business terribly hilarious, seeing as how the few relationships that can be considered as “relationships” by technical social norms terms, never ended well. They just flopped for this reason or that reason. And I am the one always asked, “what does this mean?”, or “how can I really tell?”, or “it feels like this relationship is going no where, but I don’t want it to end…”
Argh. How am I really suppose to know the answers? Are you expecting a band-aid and a lollipop to make it all feel better? There are just too many variables that go into a relationship in the first place that there is no way that it can be fixed by what one person says. I am not fixing a problem that isn’t even mine. You go fix your own. Oh… and you may want some ice cream to go with that – might I suggest Ben & Jerry’s Phish Food? Yum indeed. Take care now. Bu-bye.
I wish I could say that.
But, no I am the good friend. I can’t do that. Though I want to so badly some days.
I went to go see He’s Just Not That Into You on Monday. I have seen so much of the story line of that movie in real life. Those things really happen. The insecurities are real. Women really talk like that. Men act like that as well. There is always someone who has to lead others out of the maze of what relationships make our lives into.
I wonder what will happen when the day comes that I need to ask advice because of one of my relationships. Am I suppose ask myself what to do? Most likely – and as it should be. No one really knows the truth except for the one asking the question after all.